Design a Day That Feels Like You

Here’s the thing no one tells you when you start planning a wedding: You don’t have to do any of it the “traditional” way.

No cake cutting? Cool. No first dance? Fine. Want to wear a jumpsuit and say your vows barefoot by the beach? Absolutely.

Your wedding doesn't have to look like anyone else’s. It just needs to feel like you two.

And the moment you give yourself permission to let go of everyone else’s expectations? That’s when the real magic happens.

Design a Day That Feels Like You

The best weddings I’ve seen — the ones that feel electric and emotional and unforgettable — are the ones where the couple throws out the rulebook.

Here are some ideas that keep things real and relaxed:

• Say your vows somewhere that matters to you — a favourite beach, your backyard, or that bar where you had your first date.

• Skip the traditions that don’t resonate — maybe you’d rather hug your parents than have a formal walk down the aisle.

• Ditch the sit-down dinner for burgers, woodfired pizza or tacos under festoon lights.

• Swap speeches for dancing or a big communal toast.

• Write your own vows (I’ve got a whole guide on that here)

• Make your ceremony short, sweet and packed with personality. It can be fun, meaningful, and 100% yours — without being long or stiff.

  
  

You’re allowed to keep it simple. You’re allowed to get creative. You’re allowed to do whatever the hell you want — and your people will love you for it.

Start With What Feels Good

Instead of starting with what a wedding “should” look like, start with what feels good for the two of you.

Ask yourselves:

• What would feel fun?

• What would feel relaxed?

• What would feel like us?

Do you want an epic party with all your mates on the dancefloor? Or a sweet ceremony with your nearest and dearest, followed by cocktails and a sunset swim?

Once you’ve figured out the vibe you want, everything else gets easier.

A Note on Pinterest (and Letting Go of Perfect)

Pinterest is great for inspo — but don’t let it make you feel like you’re doing it wrong.

You don’t need matching bridesmaid dresses or a colour-coordinated grazing table unless you want those things.

Your wedding doesn’t need to be Instagram-perfect — it just needs to feel real. Honest. Joyful. Like you’re surrounded by love and being completely yourselves.

Working With the Right Vendors Helps So Much

When you work with vendors who get you — who really listen and understand what you’re about — it shows. You’ll feel relaxed. Seen. Supported. You won’t feel like a “package” or a Pinterest board.

Look for a wedding celebrant, photographer, and team who feel like your kind of people. (Need help? I’ve got a list of legends I love working with — just ask!)

Final Thoughts

Want barefoot vows and burgers after? Do it.Want to skip speeches and just dance? Go for it.Want to keep it tiny, or make it huge? Both are beautiful.

There are no rules — just make it feel like you two. Everything else is noise.

And if you’re planning a wedding in Cairns or Far North Queensland and want someone in your corner who’s all about relaxed, love-filled, no-BS ceremonies — I’d be honoured to help tell your story.

💛 Let’s keep it real. Let’s make it yours.